February is Black History Month, a time to honor the resilience, achievements, and contributions of Black Americans. It's also a time to talk about something that doesn't get enough attention: wealth building and generational wealth transfer for Black families.

Talk to an estate planning attorney. Look for someone who understands Black families, heirs' property issues, and business succession planning. If you can, support a Black attorney in your community.

And if you need help finding a Black attorney, here are some resources:

• National Bar Association: The nation's oldest and largest association of predominantly African American lawyers. Their attorney directory can help you find Black attorneys in North Carolina. Visit nationalbar.org

• North Carolina Association of Black Lawyers (NCABL): Connects you with Black attorneys practicing across North Carolina. Visit ncabl.org

• Minority Corporate Counsel Association (MCCA): Directory of diverse attorneys including estate planning and business law specialists. Visit mcca.com

• American Bar Association Goal IX Directory: Search for diverse attorneys by practice area and location. Visit americanbar.org/directories

Until North Carolina gets its act together and passes comprehensive ART legislation, families like yours need attorneys like me to navigate the gaps in the law. It shouldn't be this hard. But it is. So we make it work.

If you're like most people, you put together your will and powers of attorney when you bought your first house, or had your first kid, or hit some other major life milestone. You filed those documents away in a drawer somewhere, breathed a sigh of relief, and haven't thought about them since.

Here's the problem: life doesn't stay the same. And if your estate plan doesn't reflect your current life, it might not do what you need it to do.

There's something incredibly powerful about helping someone become a parent. About making sure that when a baby is born through surrogacy or assisted reproductive technology, the intended parents are legally recognized from day one. About removing the fear and uncertainty that can overshadow what should be one of the most joyful moments of someone's life.

This work matters. And in North Carolina, where we still don't have comprehensive surrogacy laws on the books, it matters even more.

I'm tired of watching our legislature waste time on laws that hurt people while ignoring the issues that actually matter. I'm tired of navigating legal gray areas for my clients because lawmakers won't modernize our statutes. I'm tired of seeing homeless people on every corner while politicians focus on bathroom bills and biological sex definitions. I'm tired of watching my grandmother bleed in a hospital hallway while our healthcare system crumbles and nobody with the power to fix it seems to care. I'm just tired. But I'm not giving up. And neither should you. Read my full thoughts on North Carolina's new biological sex law here.

- Melenni

Maybe you spent Thanksgiving putting on a brave face, got through Christmas for the kids, and now you're sitting here in January thinking, "I can't do another year like this."

If that's where you are, I want you to know something: you're not alone, you're not broken, and there is absolutely a path forward.

We're a week into January, and if you're like most people, you've already started thinking about which resolutions you'll actually keep this year. Hit the gym more? Learn a new language? Finally organize that junk drawer?

Here's one resolution that won't take much time but could make all the difference for your family: getting your estate plan done.

Sometimes the best thing you can do is trust your gut and take control of your own career.

Not recklessly. Not without a plan. But sometimes you have to stop trying to fit yourself into a box that was never meant to hold you. Sometimes you have to trust that if you're good at what you do, people will notice. People will support you. People will show up.

So you want to talk to your fiancé about a prenup, and you're pretty sure it's going to go over like a lead balloon. Here's what I hear all the time: "If I bring up a prenup, they're going to think I don't trust them." Or: "It's going to feel unromantic." Or my personal favorite: "My mom said it's basically planning for a divorce." Okay, let me be direct: that's all fear talking. And I get it. But a prenup is actually one of the most loving things you can do.

Divorce can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be a nightmare. Learn how clear agreements and legal guidance make the process smoother.

Without an estate plan, state law decides what happens to your assets. Learn why planning ahead protects your family and your wishes.

Wondering if you need a will? Learn why wills are the foundation of estate planning and how they protect your family’s future.

Estate planning is about more than money, it’s about protecting your legacy. Learn why every family should plan now, not later.

Estate planning gives families security and clarity. Discover how wills, trusts, and powers of attorney safeguard your loved ones, protect your assets, and ensure your wishes are honored. Estate planning doesn’t have to be stressful. Peace of mind starts here.